Tough Guys

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    thahappycamper

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    What do you guys think of tough guys?

    Reason I posted this thread is personal. I spent most of recent years buiking up, learning how to box, etc so that I can be tougher. I did this for myself and not any other reason, honestly. I wanted to be able to protect the girl I love and myself from bad people. I wanted to be tough and not be afraid of anyone when I go out in the world. The negative side of this is that it worked. Most people don't trust me or scared of me now. It doesn't feel good now cause its hard to get people to trust me and make people feel secure around me. The girl I pursue for the last month just told I look like a serial killer and that she doesn't trust me. That hurts a lot. It was the most hurtful thing any girl has said to me in a very long time.

    The problem is that I like who I am. I like walking down the street knowing that people will think twice before messing with me. I like being tough and strong and masculine. I like being able to pick up heavy objects and I like knowing that I'm strong, a man's man. However, come to realize it's not popular with the ladies. The pretty ones seems to like only the regular guys. The handsome face, skinny arms and legs, guys who can't protect their woman from bad people.

    Any thoughts on this situation?
     
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    Nothin' wrong with being tough and looking tough. But like the saying goes, there's a time for everything. Perhaps when you're around the ladies, lighten up. You can maintain the tough exterior but try to put others at ease. Let them know that you won't bite by smiling. When they perceive you as being approachable, they'll feel safer around you.

    Didn't this same girl ride in the car with you alone? Why is she now saying these things? She could just be saying that to hurt you.
     
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    Yeah the questions you raise are fair. I'm thinking the same thing, she's just trying to get under my skin. I can't believe she had the nerve to even ask me to pick her up Sunday after everything she said. What a social moron.
     
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    Same here, nothing wrong with being protective and looking tough. I thought girls would like their man like that?
     
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    thahappycamper

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    anyways, I decided she's just gonna be a friend. I guess she got upset I asked her to drink at my apartment lol. She said, "you think I'm that easy!" "I know what you are trying to do, you want a friend with benefits." Then she spoke Khmer to me, it was awkward, she sounded like my aunt scolding me for something bad, "You don't know bong srey, don't you dare have any wrong ideas about us." Then she added, "you're just a lil boy to me and that I don't trust you, you look like a serial killer." I guess I had enough, I'm not gonna try anytime soon to make any improper moves on her. She told me she wants me as a friend though. I want the same, I don't want to lose a cool friend just cause she won't let me fuck. There is a decent guy inside me after all. I'm gonna be extremely busy for the next 6-12 months, can't bullshit with her anymore, time is precious to me.
     
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    Being the nice guy that I really am, I even offered her two-way transportation today. She declined at first, but text'd me this morning for a ride. I told her I can do that, as a friend. We are good friends at work to be honest. I never been a real friend to a girl before, my whole life, I used woman for sex. I would pretend to be their friends, hang out with them, be super friendly, all because I wanted to have sex with them. It works all the time but I'm a lot older now, I feel like I should learn how to be a real friend to a woman. I'm tired of being a jerk when I don't get my way. I have a great life, I should be more appreciative of that fact. I can deal with the fact that she doesn't want me like that. The only thing I don't understand, why she want me as a friend? What is friendship good for if there's no sex involved? Maybe Im just clue-less but I would like to know why men and woman are friends?
     
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    I usually end up sleeping with all my girl "friends" that's why I don't know about this friend thing...is it really possible?
     
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    Honestly, how does one go from friends to friends with benefits? I usually get them drunk, woman act different when they are drunk, I dont know why...
     
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    You know what, I was thinking about that the other day. I don't think that women and men can really be friends. It's either one or both of us will develop feelings for the other. And now that I think about it, all of my close female friends are married. And the ones who are single aren't really friends, more like acquaintances, or I see them as sisters.
     
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    I was told once that women don't like to give it away just like that. They want to feel a connection with the guy, or emotionally bonded. So the friendship might be a stepping stone to that, being physically intimate??
     
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    That was what I was thinking....
     
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    I like tough guys. But have to know when to show their emotional side as well
     
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    Hmm, I tends to go for the shy guy. But after being in a relationship with them, I enjoy a guy that can carry on a conversation. Either way, I basically work my way around their flaws.
     
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    Pretty girls go with all types of guys. You just haven't come across all of them yet since the world is really big. I see pretty girls with the tough guys looks. It just depend on the community you're in.

    But in general, more girls does like the regular guys with the handsome face. :D
     
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    Are you good with facials and such? If you are, please give my brother Happy a nice facial so his face can radiate handsomeness. Heh.
     
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    I grew up as a pretty boy hamster. It great with the ladies but get you no respect elsewhere, especially in the streets. I no longer care about being handsome, cause its superficial to me. I guess I need to find a girl that feels the same way? Somebody who doesn't live with their parents? I got a whole lot of life ahead of me, I aint tripping over this mang! Happy Holidays to all my friends on KF!
     
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    ..... look lik
    Agree +1
     
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    I like money more than girls. :D I hope to buy a wife in Cambodia one day.
     
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    Hey Happy, always remember to be nice to the girl. If two guys has money, the nicer one wins the girl. That applies to every situation, every girls wants to be treated good. I personality never care if my boyfriend can kick box or jump the tallest building in the world, most real girl just wants a boyfriend that treats them good. Many rich people turns to drugs or commit suicide because they don't get any love in their world. Everyone in this worlds expect love over many things. If you ended up with someone that cares for money more, then you're with the wrong person because she won't be there for you when times get tough. :)
    Plus, you will live life depress like all those famous and rich people you see on the article.
     
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    thahappycamper

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    I aint worry. I got a plan. Make money and be happy not expecting things to be a fairy tale. See, I can tell you're an awesome girl, but how many girls I run into that are awesome, got a good head on their shoulder, pretty, and humble? Not a lot man. My greed will always be the reason I get up everyday and it fulfills me enough that I'm not worried about finding true love, I got a girl that I love deeply enough. I"m not crazy in love with her and I love it cause I can keep a clear head and focus on things. I know I sounds crazy but I"m telling you the truth. I don't give a damn about love. I care about net worth haha....I dont care about famous or rich man....I only care about waking up everyday knowing I'm true to myself. I wish I was normal though but I'm not I dont think I can ever be.
     

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